No More Drama!

We're gathered here today to recognize liars, and drama queens. No I'm not going to rant about them, but I AM going to define them, and give tips on how to recognize whether you have a drama queen or liar on your hands.

Liar-(via www.dictionary.com)
noun
a person who has lied or lies repeatedly

Tips on spotting a liar-(via http://www.ehow.com/how_2094724_tell-someone-lying.html)


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Body language of lies: Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.
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A liar will avoid making eye contact.
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Emotional gestures: Timing and emotional gestures are off pace or unnatural: such as frowning when saying "I love you."
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Interactions and reactions: A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive. A guilty person is uncomfortable facing his questioner. He may turn his body or his face away.
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Verbal context:• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
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• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.


Drama Queen-(via http://ezinearticles.com/?Drama-Queen-Test:-You-May-Be-a-Drama-Queen-If&id=263968)

You may be a "Drama Queen" (or King) if....

1. Your daily complaints exceed your thanks.
2. You consistently have emotional outbursts everyday.
3. You shout and expect people elsewhere in the home (or office) to come running at your beck and call.
4. You communicate your needs and wants passionately while rarely considering those of others.
5. A bad hair day ruins your day.
6. Your dog hides in fear when you explode and lose it.
7. You are dissatisfied with the gifts you receive from people.
8. You demand that people be clean and on their best behavior at your home (or with your stuff), whereas when you are at theirs you give no such regard.
9. An argument with someone over the phone can throw you into a tailspin with everyone else with whom you interact afterward.
10. You have been called a perfectionist, but are far from perfect yourself.
11. When your nails, hair and appearance are a continual focal point in conversation.
12. Budgetary constraints are deemed to be "controlling."
13. If your expenses exceed your income, you bounce checks regularly and yell at ATMs that refuse to give you money.
14. If being out of control is more important to you than practicing self-control.
15. If you want others to be kind with their use of words while you yourself are careless.
16. If manipulation is your favorite art form.
17. If you run from confrontation and correction.
18. If you go from one guy to the next in an effort to remain continually in control.
19. If using guys to get what you want is pleasurable for you.
20. Your girlfriends call you the B_ _ _ _ word.
21. After your boyfriend buys you a bunch of new clothes, en route to the exit when bypassing another store you stop to look at more.
22. You ask for gifts priced well beyond what you would ever pay yourself when buying for others.
23. You throw things during a temper tantrum.
24. Relatives cringe at your coming.
25. People feel as if whatever they do for you is never enough.
26. You emotional exhaust yourself and others.
27. You cannot live and let live.
28. You must always call the shots and have it your way.
29. Being the center of attention is your primary purpose.
30. You criticize regularly and encourage rarely.
31. You regularly have a meltdown during "that time of the month."
32. You refuse to apologize and take accountability for your words and actions.
33. You cannot forgive and prefer holding grudges.
34. You blame others for your shortcomings.
35. You deflect constructive criticism preferring shallow conversation.
36. You have few close friends who can truly speak into your life.
37. You erect walls to avoid hearing what don't want to hear.
38. You cut people off and out of your life the minute you disagree with them.
39. You stonewall to overcome feelings of insecurity rather than be transparent and discuss your feelings humbly and openly.
40. When you get what you want, you realize you don't want what you've got.
41. You are an emotional bottomless pit, meaning no matter how much you get you are never satisfied.
42. Your lust for attention and affirmation is insatiable, while your love for yourself is minimal.
43. You are impatient and impulsive.
44. You repel the very people who you would most benefit from attracting in your life.
45. You judge by outward appearance rather than looking within to the mind and heart of a person.
46. Fashion is a large part of your self-image, without which you would feel lesser as a person.
47. You compare yourself with others rather than being content.
48. The exterior is given far more attention than your inner world and personal development as a person.
49. What you project outwardly is more important to you than what you possess inwardly.
50. You deem moments of selfishness merely as self-actualization and personal fulfillment.
51. You serve yourself before others.
52. You are quick to speak and slow to hear.
53. You dominate conversations and rarely listen.
54. Difficulties and life challenges easily demoralize you.
55. You demonize people who disagree with you.
56. You seek to be understood before endeavoring to understand others.
57. You easily anger.
58. You sulk in sadness when you don’t get your way.
59. You try to read between the lines to such an extent that you draw meanings and jump to conclusions that are not warranted nor factually based.
60. You expect more out of others than you give of yourself.
61. You don’t manage time. Time manages you.
62. You skip meals to look good, when you could eat well to feel good.
63. You pay close attention to the latest trends in Hollywood.
64. You have numerous parking and speeding tickets, which you’ve still not paid.
65. You don’t hesitate to make demands and give ultimatums.
66. You judge others by their actions and yourself by your intentions.
67. You don't master your moods and emotions.
68. You leverage your good looks to get you everything you want.
69. You care more about looks than character.
70. You practice a “take it and leave them” philosophy.


So are you dealing with a liar or a drama queen? Or are you in fact a liar or a drama queen? If you know someone who is a drama queen or liar show them this list. If you are one...jump off a cliff, shut the fuck up, and stop bitching, EVERYONE is sick of your bullshit and NOONE needs it. Thank you bye bye then. LOVE YA'LL!

All I'm asking is for a little R.E.S.P.E.C.T.!

Due to some issues a good friend of mine has been going through, I have been inspired to write a blog. It helps me vent for my friend, and gives me something to write about lol. Anywho this blog makes me think of the song "R.E.S.P.E.C.T." by the lovely and talented, Aretha Franklin. Though I doubt there is going to be very many, if ANY of you that has never heard the song...here are some of the lyrics that go along with my friend's situation. (btw my friend's name will not be mentioned because she has asked me to keep her name private so that her family will not have the chance to get after.) Here are some of the lyrics from the Aretha song:

What you want - Baby, I got it - What you need - you know I got it - All I'm askin' - Is for a little respect
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I ain't gonna do you wrong while you're gone - Ain't gonna do you wrong 'cause I don't wanna - All I'm askin' - Is for a little respect
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I'm about to give you all of my money - And all I'm askin' in return, honey - Is to give me my propers
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I get tired - Keep on tryin' - You're runnin' out of fool - And I ain't lyin' - When you come home - (re, re, re ,re) 'spect - Or you might walk in - And find out I'm gone

...Now that was just little parts from the song, but it fits well with my friend's situation so it works. It really "tans my hide" when people who deserve some respect just don't get any because a lot of people are too pigheaded to realize how they treat other people, and how much some people do for them. Now I'm pretty sure Aretha's song is about a significant other, but it's not just significant others that don't know how to give respect. For example...There are a lot of people who disrespect and even hate service men. If you don't believe in the cause that's fine...but honestly the U.S. would not have been a country as long as it has been without the men and women out their fighting for us.

Sometimes it's our bosses at work. Sometimes it's police officers and firemen and women who don't get the respect they deserve (don't get me wrong I've known a few cops who didn't really deserve any respect, but there are still some cops out there who do actually deserve it) Sometimes it's teachers that don't respect their students and vice versa. Hell sometimes it is even friends or even FAMILY that doesn't show people respect when they deserve it. In my good friend's case it is her family that doesn't give her enough respect. Now the thing is, she doesn't realize how bad her family actually treats her. She bends over backwards for her family members, but they treat her like shit. She told me about how they act as if she is lazy, ungrateful, and just a big pain in the ass. Yet she does SO much for them, and doesn't get ANYTHING, ESPECIALLY not R.E.S.P.E.C. fucking T.! I honestly would kick their asses for the way they treat her, but that would get her in more shit with them, so it'd be basically pointless. In Aretha's song it talks about how she gives her time, her respect, her love her money, and her energy to the person, and what does she want in return? "Just a little bit of R.E.S.P.E.C.T." So to all of you out there who step all over the people that bend over backwards for you, who disrespect those people, and who just don't give a damn about the fact that those people bend over backwards for you...KISS MY ASS! AND YOU SURE AND THE HELL AIN'T GETTING NO R.E.S.P.E.C.T. FROM ME! Love ya'll buh bye!